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Sushil Jhangiani's avatar

Thank you for writing this. I see that we're becoming more insular and this is where it can lead. I remember many years ago when I lived in the UK, one of my neighbours' body was discovered some days after he passed, simply because there was no one to miss him. Thank God for the Amazon courier, car cleaner and milk guy!

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Priya Ramani's avatar

I want to grow old with my friends around me

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Sandhya Srinivasan's avatar

This is so true. My advice to the next generation, when they were setting up their homes, was to know at least one neighbour who could keep their spare key and/or have a spare gas cylinder. Both are perfect ice breakers.

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Priya Ramani's avatar

Heh

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Not The Wife Material's avatar

this is exactly what I have been wanting to write. so spot on. thanks for putting this out so succinctly..

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Nandita Iyer's avatar

So well said - i read somewhere when you say 'it takes a village' we also need to contribute to the bricks of the village - community is the best part of where I live and I will never take it for granted. Just those whatsapp groups we find annoying can be a life saver where help is just a message away.

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Priya Ramani's avatar

True

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Arcopol Chaudhuri's avatar

A fine piece and a great reminder about the things that matter in the long run.

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Priya Ramani's avatar

Thanks :)

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Swapna's avatar

Loved the piece.

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Tara Anand's avatar

Ok I also think we should all be more worried about rodent droppings………

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Priya Ramani's avatar

Only you and me sharp focused on that detail. I had it in caps in the piece then thought I would get “email disabled for your substack” notifications

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Samar Halarnkar's avatar

I saw the rodent bit but kept quiet for both your sakes

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Shambhavi ♥‿♥'s avatar

I've always been interested in exploring how we're losing our sense of community due to a number of evident reasons. This just adds another case study to it. Gone are the days when our routines were synced with our neighbours'. Great observations Priya!

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Priya Ramani's avatar

Same, and one of the reasons I love living where I do in Bangalore is that the community still comes together. We even have a newspaper called In and Around.

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Shambhavi ♥‿♥'s avatar

That's one of my wishes, to have a society newspaper (although I think it'll becone too controversial too soon )One of the things I really enjoy is meeting and greeting the same faces during my evening walks daily, even though I don't know anything else about these people. It's another way of taking care, isn't it

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Dipali Taneja's avatar

Yes, we fortunately have many layers of interaction here in India, even if the dhobi and car-cleaner's bell ringing is annoying. Our daily lives are witnessed by many.

The way Gene Hackman and his family passed way was truly saddening.

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Priya Ramani's avatar

I love the way you put it—our daily lives are witnessed by many :)

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